gender: “Girl” (the 2005 hit single by Destiny’s Child)

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I don’t have a lot of money and I don’t have a car and I have to work in food service to make a living and there are lots of things that I wish I could be doing but can’t and there are a lot of things I will never be and there are a lot of bad things that have happened to me and a lot of bad things that have happened to the people I love. I will never be white and I will never be a boy and I will never be skinny. Maybe I will never have money and maybe I will never love my body.

But I am here and I have so much love in my heart and no one can ever take that away from me. I am here and I am enough and I am happy and that’s all I need.

"I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”"

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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assigned… at birth? holy shit, that assignment must be so overdue, i hope this gender doesn’t effect my GPA

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Anonymous: morning glories are not edible flowers... but the seeds will get u high ;) 

oh no edible-flower is the url of my partner who took the photo of me in the morning glories, that is why I tagged that photo #edible-flower but thanks for looking out friend

dont eat morning glories everyone okay

okay but when you’re watching something scary and dark on your laptop and all you can see is your own reflection looking terrified in your underwear

i call myself an adult but i still cant watch x-files after sunset

a giant box got delivered to our house and i was wondering what was in it until i came out of the bathroom to find my housemate unwrapping a trampoline in our living room